Someone Like You-Why this song pisses me off
By now everyone has heard Adele’s song “Someone Like You.” People keep quoting it in their statuses.
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“Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.”
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It’s not that I hate the song. I think it is beautiful and Adele sings it beautifully. It’s also a very honest song. As a writer, I respect anyone’s honesty. However, what pisses me off about it is that the message of the song comes from a very immature place. I know too many people who waste their time pining away after some ex that dumped them or “got away.” Remember this—if you broke up, you broke up for a reason. Move on with your life and don’t waste your time comparing yourself to your ex’s current partner.
“Guess she gave you things, I didn’t give to you.”
Adeles of the world, it’s not about that! It’s not that he or she is necessarily getting something from this new person that they didn’t/couldn’t get from you. Think of it this way: when I was five years old I liked to watch Sesame Street and Barney. Now that I am 23, they just don’t do it for me. I’m obviously in a different phase of my life. At the time, that was what I liked. Now, I like Dexter, Californication and Glee. People want and need different things at different times. Had you met your ex at a different time, with a different paradigm things may have gone differently. Perhaps your ex was more of a jerk back then and now he or she is a better person. Perhaps you couldn’t give them what they needed! Why would you want to be with someone you can’t satisfy?
I have to share this personal anecdote. As some of you know, I am now married. Well, one of my exes is getting married soon. Why do I know this? Because he felt the need to tell me. We’ve been over for over four years. Haven’t even crossed paths in 2 besides an on-line hello. Now this person played games back then. But I was young and dumb so I stuck around for it for a while. I was a pretty awesome girlfriend and he can attest to that. But I got smart, cut him off, and moved on with my life. I once told him when he tried to see me after we had broken up, “You can’t just keep ****ing your exes. You gotta grow up eventually.” When I received this news, I felt nothing. When he, along with several other of my exes found out I got married some seemed shocked or offended. Others went out of their way to be congratulatory (“Let me buy you a wedding present!” Ahem, I have yet to receive that present). None of them crossed my mind when I was saying “I do.” And I don’t hope that anyone is thinking about me when they get married.
Also as an ex, don’t go meddling in your exes present life. Especially if they are with someone else. It’s not about you. He or she is not running a comparison, and did not become committed to someone else to spite you. (And if he or she did, they are a fucked up person!) Don’t expect them to act towards you or feel about you they way they did when you were together.
I guess I just feel like exes have nothing to do with the present or the future so why involve them in it?
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"If you really want to hurt your parents, and you don’t have the nerve to be gay, the least you can do is go into the arts. I’m not kidding. The arts are not a way to make a living. They are a very human way to make life more bearable."
— Kurt Vonnegut (A Man Without a Country)
Macaroni Necklaces
I got the best Mother’s Day present ever. I had this ongoing joke about how my daughter (who is a week short of three months) needs to make me a macaroni necklace as a gift. So I go to my mailbox and find a box containing a macaroni necklace and bracelet, and a card written in paint that says, ” To Mommy. From Ava.” It was gift from my own mother, but I’ll let little Ava take the credit. Insanely cute and it matched my outfit and pedicure.
